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Old Songs, New Songs

Dear Daughters,

A few weeks ago, our worship leader started out the service by saying

Today we’re going to sing a lot of old favorites.

In my head I’m thinking

Old equals 200 years.

Obviously, she is a millennial because the songs we sang were all around 10 to 20 years old.  I chuckled to myself because the definition of old can mean different things to different people.

The songs were wonderful, well-done and worshipful, but I found it interesting that to some, old simply means a few decades.  To others, like myself, it means a few centuries.

That afternoon I got thinking about old songs and new songs.  I remembered last winter when Grandma was dying and in Hospice care. Hospice provides spiritual support, and we were blessed with a guitar-playing, boisterous singing chaplain.

Chaplain John came to the door on a snowy December day with his guitar in hand.  Being a musician myself I was elated that he obviously loved music as well.  When he came into the bedroom where Mom lay unconscious, he sat down, opened his guitar case and passed around song sheets, Christmas carols along with old yet well-loved hymns.

For the last several days before Grandma’s death, people had come in to say their good-byes, some singing, talking or praying quietly. A few weeks prior, Grandma herself one day started singing

Jesus loves me this I know, for the Bible tells me so

Little ones to Him belong, they are weak but He is strong.

Yes, Jesus loves me. Yes, Jesus loves me.

Yes, Jesus loves me, the Bible tells me so.

I joined in, singing along with her.  I think she knew her time was short and was comforted by this simple but profound song.

 

Awhile back I was teaching piano in Michigan, and I had a twenty-something student starting out as a beginner. She had recently become a Christian and wanted to start learning to play on the piano some songs she had heard in church. She attended a contemporary-song-singing church and loved the songs that were used in worship.  One week she came to her lesson so excited about a beautiful new song she just learned last Sunday, Amazing Grace, and wondered if I could find the music for her.  (This was before the time of musicnotes.com).  She was surprised to hear that Amazing Grace was 250 years old, but it brought her great joy as she learned to play and sing it.

I started thinking about old songs and new songs the other day, and how the old songs seem to be fading away in many churches.  Then I wondered: when millennials become senior citizens and begin to die, what songs will their friends and family sing at their bedsides?

Thinking of some of the recent popular Christian songs I wondered how we could sing Oceans, My Lighthouse, Breathe, 10,000 Reasons, Break Every Chain at someone’s bedside, not having a worship band backing us up.

Now don’t get me wrong, I love these songs, I sing, play and listen to them often, but they are rather difficult to sing acapella or as a small group with only a guitar. I am a worship leader and love learning all the new songs, but the older I get the more I wonder if we are robbing our younger friends of those old, timeless hymns of the distant past.

There is something secure, bridging the generations, with the ageless hymns of our history.

I attended worship a few years ago in Chicago.  It was a mega-church, wonderful worship band on stage, and an outstanding message on faithfulness and commitment in marriage. The song immediately following the message was Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing, a hymn over 200 years old.  I was rather surprised at this choice because the rest of the service had been newer songs.  When we got to the fourth verse the words

Prone to wander, Lord I feel it, prone to leave the God I love

surprised me, not only because it fit so well with the message, but simply because it was a beautiful song.  The song begins with the words:

Come thou fount of every blessing, tune my heart to sing thy praise.

Tune my heart – what a beautiful word picture.  We tune guitars, pianos and other instruments all the time with hi-tech tuners, but tuning our hearts?  That’s a lot tougher to do because it takes time – thanksgiving, confession, and alone time with God – all those good quiet disciplines that we often neglect.

It’s much easier to tune our hearts to what’s wrong with our husband, what’s wrong with our kids, all the unfairness in the world, or how you have been wronged. I’m continually trying to tune my heart to count my blessings, to give thanks in all things, but it is hard work.  The battle of the mind is relentless.    Sometimes words come out of my mouth that I didn’t even realize were in my mind.  But they were probably in my heart.

I’ll continue to enjoy the new songs, but I hope we don’t abandon the old faithful sung-through-the-centuries songs that are remarkably up to date.  Maybe that’s because people struggle with the same emotions, the same sin, the same hearts that need a tune-up every day of our life.

Love, Mom

 

 

 

 

 

 

Grandma’s Music

Dear Daughters,

My trip to Idaho a few months ago was good but hard. It was wonderful to be with Grandpa and Grandma for a week, and yet difficult to see them struggle with their bodies that don’t work like they used to. Grandma speaks the truth when she says “My forgetter is getting better.” My nickname became “Lifesaver Shari” because when she lost things I found them! When I made meals for them they would both comment that I make it look so easy.   Many chores that used to be every day and normal for them have now become overwhelming.

gmagpaThe second morning I was at their home I came out of my bedroom as Grandma was walking by. She looked at me and said with a surprised look on her face “Oh, I didn’t know you were here!” But I quickly assured her that I had been there for a day or so and she was fine with that. I have become her mother, and she my young child. She is so quick to ask if she can help with lunch or dinner and is eager to do whatever I ask. I felt both honored to be able to assist them, yet found it difficult to navigate my new role.

Mums PianoIn the midst of all that, an amazing thing happened on that second day at their home. I asked Grandma if she would play some songs on the piano. At first she didn’t want to, but I told her I really wanted to hear someone else play besides me. So I got out the hymnbook, turned to the table of contents and starting in the A’s looked to see which songs she would know. Because her sight is so poor she is unable to read music anymore, but because she has everything memorized it wasn’t necessary for her to read at all, just think and play. So I said, Abide with Me. She thought for about 5 seconds and played it perfectly.  Amazing Grace.   Again, 5 seconds of thought and another beautiful rendition, complete with modulations into other keys. After she had played about 5 songs that I had asked for she suddenly transitioned smoothly into It is No Secret without my asking. Then I said Because He Lives, which she played flawlessly, then came back again to It is No Secret. Then all of sudden a rollicking version of You Are My Sunshine.   Then …Secret again. A few more songs of my request, and then Have Thine Own Way, Lord.

For the next 45 minutes or so she would continue to intersperse those three songs (It Is No Secret, You Are My Sunshine, Have Thine Own Way) in between the many other songs that I requested. She repeated no other songs, just those three. So I figured God wanted me to sit down and think on those songs for a bit.Dad2

Because of our living in the times that we do, these three songs were exactly what I needed to hear. God has always provided for us in the past, and I have no doubt that He will continue in the future. We just don’t know what that future is….yet.

I found it so amazing that Grandma, although she was not able to remember my answer to a question she had asked one minute earlier, could minister to me through her playing of songs that she loved and were embedded in her mind and heart for decades. It was probably my most memorable time in Idaho this year.

One more little tidbit ~ when we were driving to Washington that week I would look in the backseat once in a while and often see Grandpa and Grandma holding hands. Then once she started singing  You are My Sunshine, and she said to my sister Rhonda and me “Your dad’s a keeper!” After being married 64 years that was like music to my ears.

 

Love, Mom

 

In case you don’t know the words to those three songs, I’ve printed them below – some I haven’t heard for decades.

 

 

It Is No Secret

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The chimes of time ring out the news

Another day is through

Someone slipped and fell

Was that someone you?

You may have longed for added strength

Your courage to renew

Do not be disheartened

I have news for you.

 

It is no secret what God can do

What he has done for others

He’ll do for you

With arms wide open

He’ll pardon you

It is no secret what God can do.

 

There is no night, for in His light

You’ll never walk alone

You’ll always feel at home wherever you may roam.

There is no power can conquer you

.While God is on your side

Take Him at His promise

Don’t run away and hide.

 

 

You Are My Sunshine

 

You are my sunshine, my only sunshine,Datylilies2

You make me happy when skies are gray

You’ll never know, dear, how much I love you

Please don’t take my sunshine away.

 

 

 

 

Have Thine Own Way, Lord

 

Have thine own way, Lord, have thine own way.

Thou art the Potter, I am the clay.

Mold me and make me after Thy will

While I am waiting, yielded and still.

 

Have thine own way, Lord, have thine own way

Search me and try me, Master today!

Whiter than snow, Lord, wash me just now.

As in Thy presence humbly I bow.

 

Have thine own way, Lord, have thine own way.

Wounded and weary, help me I pray.

Power all power, surely is Thine

Touch me and heal me, Savior divine.

 

Have thine own way, Lord, have thine own way.

Hold o’er my being absolute sway!

Fill with Thy Spirit till all shall see

Christ only, always, living in me!

 

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