Gender Madness

If you were given one chance in life to be reborn, to reinvent and make yourself into the image of your own choosing – would you do it?  What if you were given promises that by changing your identity and the essence of who you are – you would achieve lasting happiness, and everyone would love you?  It sounds tempting, easy and so alluring, doesn’t it?

Oli London was given all those promises – the promises that his fantasy life could become real and he could be cloned into a K-pop artist.  His dream was to become a Korean female pop star, and because of this his visions of happiness would finally come true.  So, going through nine different surgeries, including 32 procedures, he finally arrived at his destination façade totally intending to have reached perfection.

 Oli had been battling with self-identity for a decade, yet, even as he did become semi- famous in K-pop music, he still didn’t like who he was.  All the insecurities he had suffered as a child never went away.  The voices of “not good enough, you’re such a loser, you’ll never get anything right…” were still there.  The outside of his body had changed, but it hadn’t become the magic formula for ridding himself of those nagging thoughts which were constantly on loop in his brain.

During one of his surgeries in Korea (the plastic surgery capitol of the world) he wrote the following:

It was a factory, and I was just a product that needed to be pumped out of the production line quickly, so that he could move on to the next patient, then the next one.  There was simply no duty of care or code of ethics governing this clinic; it was simply about quick profit and then throwing the patient out the door.

Long story short, Oli did detransition – becoming the man he always was.  He learned that God had loved him throughout his journey, he just didn’t realize this fact.  Oli’s fear now was what would happen on social media when he did come out with his detransition story.  Because he had hundreds of thousands of followers on TikTok, IG and FB, he was concerned about how he would be treated.  His worries were valid:

The irony was that these were the same people who preach about acceptance and about respecting people’s identities however unusual they may be, yet I was suddenly cast out and they were turning on me.

As one woman who detransitioned said after it was all over,

It (the transition process) was the closest thing I could come to killing myself without actually doing it.

Millions of adolescents are uncomfortable in their own bodies – I don’t know of a teenager who isn’t.  It certainly wasn’t my favorite time of life.  Being a teen is difficult but trying to totally remake yourself is not the answer. 

God made a DNA code for every person in the world, and it is there at the conception of each human being.  No number of hormones, puberty blockers or gender reassignment surgeries will ever change that fact.  Promises are given from many doctors and therapists, but all them are piecrust promises – easily broken, because it is impossible to change from the sex which God so graciously granted you.

Daisy, a teenage girl who wanted to become a boy, looks back now on the journey she walked -taking testosterone and having top surgery (a double mastectomy) and says that basically everyone is lying – the media is lying, the doctors are lying, the therapists are lying, and “I was lying to myself.”   It’s all a game of pretending, except for the fact that it is ruining the lives of so many.

Oli London is now a dedicated activist, splitting his time between Washington D.C. and London, fighting to put an end to the “Gender-affirming” care system that is impacting so many young lives across the world.  His understanding of the confusion and lies that consume the minds of so many young people is invaluable. 

Oli has experienced the compassionate love of God, and is eager to share that beautiful message, which is something we all need to hear and believe.